- merely concealing a barren emptiness behind an independent-seeming façade.
What kind of cry is this?
No one can say.
“Other people’s expectations can become of overriding importance, overlaying or contradicting the original sense of self, the one connected to the very roots of one’s being”.
Angel’s allies Bully Alleys
wasteland of oblivion
Authentication of self-esteem
The danger was particularly acute where the baby had to provide attunement for the mother/parents, rather than vice versa, building up a sort of dissociated recognition of the object on an impersonal, not personal and spontaneous basis.
A compromised ego
a pseudo-self of
manifest at will,
The loneliness of freedom
the annihilating experience of the exploitation of the hidden true self itself
…exhibit powers only rarely and this activation is always brought on by severe stress.
by means of introjections, even attains a show of being real…
building up a sort of dissociated recognition of the object on an impersonal, not personal and spontaneous basis…
-Donald Woods Winnicott FRCP (7 April 1896 – 25 January 1971
The self is a relation which relates itself to its own self, or it is that in the relation that the relation relates itself to its own self; the self is not the relation but that the relation relates itself to its own self.
—–Søren Kierkegaard, The Sickness Unto Death: A Christian Psychological Exposition for Upbuilding and Awakening
THE RELATION RELATES ITSELF TO ITS OWN SELF – have you met Narcissus?